How has your week been so far?
The weather has been wet and gloomy the past fews days on this side of the world.
But it’s not just the weather that’s been gloomy lately.
I’m sure you’ve heard the news about the unexpected the deaths of two international icons, Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade — who both took their own lives because of their battle with depression. May their souls rest in peace.
When I opened this topic in our Blenders chat group, we got tons of responses from other Blenders who said:
“Guys if you need someone to talk to ha.”
“I’d dare say that I’m glad to be part of this support system. You never know, but I’m glad to know you guys.”
“that’s why it’s necessary to acknowledge negative emotions din”
“Yes, depression is real. One of my fam members experienced that. No matter how close you are sa isa’t-isa, mayroon pa ring nade-depress. merong di nagdidisclose ng feelings. And anytime you need someone to talk to, I am just a pm away guys, ha?
It made me realize how glad I am to have started and be part of a group that is so generous and so supportive.
Now back to Anthony and Kate, we see all the success — the fame, the money — and it got me thinking WHY?
Why did they do it?
It’s true, fame and money do not equate to success.
Just last week, I wrote in my email newsletter about keeping track of your goals through the Rock Your 2018 planner.
What we were doing is tracking our success mainly based on our financial goals.
But what about a more important metric like happiness?
I know that as freelancers and entrepreneurs, we have big dreams.
We want to get that dream car or that dream house.
Then we always talk about what we should do to achieve those goals.
What we don’t talk about is, what if we DO reach that goal (HURRAY!)…
What comes after that?
What if you do get that Porsche or that house in Forbes?
You got all those stuff because you hustled so hard.
But, during the process of doing that, you spent less and less time with the people you love.
Will that still count as “reaching your goal”?
I am not trying to make you feel guilty (because I also am guilty of this).
I just wanted to make you realize that instead of chasing money, why don’t we chase happiness.
Let’s use myself as a case study.
This year, I have a big goal.
I wanted to 3X my income from last year.
Since the beginning of the year, a lot of things happened that made me not reach my goal.
In fact, I am not even close to my income goal (I am still at 1X, meaning steady pa rin, hehe).
This year, after my dad passed away in February, I decided to spend most of my time with people that matter to me.
I went to HK with my high school buddies, the first time we ever did that (we’ve been together for more than 25 years.)
Since I got married, it was also my first time to travel abroad without my family.
Apart from that, with my family naman, we went on mini-staycations (Tagaytay, Laguna, etc ) and we are also planning to go to Palawan in October (my first time there).
I also brought my son to his first PBA game last week. (He said it was the best day ever.)
Those happy moments, those unique and memorable experiences…they do not appear in our goals sheets or in our Starbucks planners.
But in terms of making us fulfilled human beings, it scores very high. Way high up there!
Start chasing happiness.
Because in the end, it’s all that truly matters.
P.S. My point for writing this piece is to spread happiness but I am not a psychologist. If you are feeling down or depressed, I would like to share this infographic below from WHO on how to deal with depression. Do not hesitate to seek professional help.
P.P.S. Stil, my door is always open for you, in case you need someone to talk to over email, chat (fb.me/marvdeleon) or even a call. Just shoot me an email at email@example.com. I’m all ears.